I’m just replying so I’ll find your comments back easily in a few days

It might be healthier for you to break contact with your family or at least make contact the bare minimum (Christmas, birthdays). That’s some fucked up parenting. You leave your teenager alone in their room when the door is locked. You can try to talk about stuff with teenagers, voice opinions about sexuality and all that, but sneakily opening that locked door is some seriously wrong shit.