I kinda just realized I never really talked much to parents besides the occasional mentions about school or news…
Which is likely why my first language kinda never developed beyond like 1st grade lexicon, since I use English outside of home, and also its the most common language on the internet most websites and media is English, its the lingua franca of the world…, so I never really got to use my first language much, not much conversations. Or perhaps its the other way around? Maybe the language barrier that caused me to not really able to have a conversation with my parents in the first place. Idk.
So… yea… relationship-wise nowadays… not that close… the reason is kinda self-evident lol
Not close at all these days, mostly occasional emails, but as a kid I would often think and say that my parents are some of my best friends, we always had good times together and I’d often just step away from the computer to just go hang out with them and riff on some TV while eating dinner or whatever or see what they were up to generally and talk. Nothing but good memories there.
I used to incredibly close. We could very comfortably — I’d almost say like friends except the fact they did actually parent and never allowed us to walk all over them.
It’s kind of sad now, I don’t talk to my parents often anymore. We live a few states apart.
I think personality compatibility has more to do with that relationship. I have very little emotional empathy, but plenty of cognitive empathy. I do not have narcissism like my parents and I am capable of independent thought and questioning dogma. All of this is totally incompatible with my family.
I don’t talk to my folks because everything is negative feedback and sadism.
