I am turning 18 tomorrow. Any life advice for me
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This was reported twice for not being a shower thought. The reporters are correct, it’s not strictly a shower thought.
But thinking about getting older is something we all do in the shower, for multiple reasons :)
Looks like people are mostly enjoying it so I’ll let it stay for now.
thank you moderator
pick up the “analogue bag” trend. none of us older than you approve of the internet today: we had a different place to grow up in online. you will be the happiest and most hopeful person around- others will remember your calm and seek you for comfort.
stop using AI. period. your brain is developing, let it suffer the growing pains of wondering what to draw; of which source of knowledge learn from; how to compose your thoughts. you will be the most intelligent person around- ever increasingly so as years go by.
age old traps checklist: status, whoevers the most popular that moment, flips on the head as you grow up… everyone will Hate how the most popular person behaves now in a few years. be humble if you’re the popular one. at the sane time enjoy yourself: if you wanna indulge, indulge. saying stupid things from your heart is indulging. listening more than you speak is humble. that’s the secret to popularity that lasts beyond school years.
hug all around you. say hi to everyone around you, even those you don’t feel are cool- that you’d get bullied for associating with. that’s all we adults are doing: catching up on hugs and greetings, because it helps our mood and makes us feel meaningful wherever we have to be.
learn an instrument, or an art, or a craft, or a sport.
say no to drugs. period. your brain and body are fully developed when you are 26. then you don’t get as addicted and have an easer time finding a balance between partying and cozying up intimately in a couch. statistically you’ll end up regretful if not abusing drugs or being abused while doing drugs below 26 years old. i can attest. drugs don’t fix problems. they hide and let problems infect other parts of your life.
say no to sex that makes you feel pressured. as a guy i got status from chasing sex at your age, but if fucked me up to only be liked for being attractive. friends who cuddle are more important than acquaintances who fuck. one validates you as a human being and makes you feel seen. the other hollows you out while forcing you to become a person for the sake of others to feel seen.
be outdoors. pet animals. eat vegetables. drink water, not soda. drop food additives like “flavour enhancers” (e621) and aromas (vanilla aroma is made of literal cowdung and fossil fuels.) companies are not your friends: you’re as cattle to the companies, so yeet their brands. wear natural fibres and what you like.
welp i have more but idk if you’d read all
i have read it all. it was nice. thank you
Use sunscreen.
i do. and it is best thing i could do. People call me girly for doing it but skincare is for everyone
The people who call you girly are idiots. Having said that, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being girly. I much prefer that to toxic masculinity.
Just post the song for him.
Brush your teeth and see the dentist at least yearly.
Stop reading beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly.
The right age for playing video games is after 30. before that, there s better to do
I have no interests in games when I am playing life as a game
Thefuck?
Games are a hobby. If they give you pleasure and joy, then there is no “better” thing to be doing.
How much of your time at 18 should be spent on hobbies is a different matter, but to dismiss games as an unsuitable form of leisure at that age is insane.
The games people play growing up and as young adults can be formative and massively influential.
They tell stories, frustrate, entertain, let you form social bonds, and even enlighten you in ways no other form of media can by allowing you interactively explore the thoughts of other people.
Plus, I’m not even 30, I am already noticing a decline in my performance in terms of precision and reaction time when it comes to the competitive genre.
I was asked for an old man advice and gave it. Video games is not any hobby. It requires no physical effort and little social interaction. It is suited for older married people.
Music does not “require” physical effort or social interaction. The same goes for books, movies and tv. Would you dismiss those, too?
Video games are an art medium, with exceptions to every one of your points.
Motion control games require tons of physical effort.
Multiplayer games literally cannot be played without other people.
There are games for couples, friends, parties, and quiet alone time.
It’s an entire art medium, one which INCLUDES entire other art mediums like writing, music, acting, and more.
Your opinion is based on an incredible narrow interpretion of what video games are and can be. Or perhaps you haven’t checked in on gaming in around two decades.
Either way it’s resulting in absolutely horrendous advice.
Only a tiny number of the games I play and have played, are ones I would hold off on until I’m over 30 and married. Some people find their spouses because of gaming.
A LOT of games I played had their biggest impact around my 20s.
Treat others the way you want to be treated.
Read.
If you don’t know, ask or find out. Knowledge is rarely a Bad Thing.
Read.
Take care of your health. It gets a lot harder as you get older.
Read.
Seriously, go to a library. Pick something. If you don’t like it, return it for something else. If you do, get some more like that one. But don’t be afraid to branch out.
Edit to add: pretty much everything said here is really good advice.
To add to this. You don’t need to go to the library. Depending on where you live, you can go online to your local library website. Register with them. They will give you a username and password. Then you can download apps like Libby or Hoopla to check out books/comics/audiobooks from your mobile device.
Just be nice. And listen. Always listen and pause before you speak. It will solve sooooo many problems.
Specific advice like “save your money” and “enjoy your money while youre young” and “focus on education” and “forget education get a job fast” are all too nuanced and will likely get ignored anyway.
This “song” pretty much covers the important stuff.
Exercise, have a salad for dinner sometimes, be careful who you date and keep friends you can trust to tell you when you’re fucking up.
Meaning can be found in pain and we all face that.
Lift wieghts and or do some other physical activity. Its good to have two hobbies; a mental one and a physical one. The muscle you build now will be with you for the rest of your life, and its mucb easier to do it now than when you are middle aged like me.
Dont focus too hard on girls, just live your life and enjoy the experiences and relationships you build with all people; everything else will follow.
Travel, with a focus on the physically taxing things that are harder to do when you are older.
Invest what money you can, compound interest is real and it is the path to wealth (eventually).
I would encourage more than 2 hobbies. It can be very difficult to feel satisfied if for some reason you can’t engage in one of your hobbies (I speak from experience).
If you aren’t already, start going to the gym now and don’t ever stop, or you will regret it by your late 30s. I stopped going at age 30; it’s only been seven years since but I can already feel my body falling apart. Everything hurts all the time and it doesn’t stop hurting.
Its reversable. I started going back to the gym at 39 and am stronger now than i was when I was younger. I have knee pain, but thats a weight issue honestly.
Don’t worry too much about the rat race. Take time to enjoy life and experience things with people you care about. The best moments in life can be really small things.
At the same time, don’t waste too much time doing nothing either; use your time well, but use it to develop and improve yourself, learn something useful. Get a job you enjoy or consider important, at least. Doing work that you enjoy or consider important is far more valuable than the money you make. But don’t ignore the money either. Just don’t sacrifice your soul for it. Don’t work yourself to death for a boss who doesn’t appreciate you. Don’t burn your relationships for money.
Take care of your teeth. Many loves will come and go in your 20s and maybe even 30s, but if its a life partner you want try focusing on yourself and they’ll appear out of thin air. Friends are important but not as important as inner peace. If a job offer 401k start investing as much as possible as soon as possible. Everyone is going through their own crazy messed up life so be kind. Puff, puff pass and enjoy your 20s as much as possible while not losing sight of your goals. Goals are EVERYTHING, set the achieve them and set them again. Heartbreak and death are integral parts of being human. It’s important to sit with and process the pain as long as YOU see fit. Death will come for someone you love someday, don’t let drugs or alcohol be your medicine
i didn’t even approached my first date as I don’t know how to approach girls or guys cuz I am bisexual. I also live in religious society where dating only leads to marriage and I don’t wanna be committed at this point
Weed and alcohol are my medicine and you don’t want to end up like me.
well they are tabboo too so it is hard to get there in my country
USE A CONDOM!
Get a vasectomy.
Sit down pee when you’re visiting a friend’s house. Double points if you do the same at your own house.
i do it yeah cuz I don’t have urinals in my surroundings
I’ve never understood the desire to stand while peeing. Sure; when you’ve got too - like outside - or if a toilet is filthy and you don’t want to touch it; but I’ve always been happy to take the opportunity to sit my lazy ass down for a minute. Plus I never have to worry about aim or cleaning up if I miss.
If you’re going to go to college, go to a community college for your basics. Same classes, often smaller class sizes, and much less money. Just make sure the credits will transfer first.
